Monday, November 19, 2012

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait

Today was an epically good day.  It started out just like most other Mondays, wake up (late, as usual), get ready, get the kids ready for school, drop them off at my parents' house, and head in to work.  First thing I usually do when I get to work is check my email to see if there is anything that came in overnight that needs to be addressed first thing, and today in my email was a broadcast email from the CEO of our company letting us know that our year end "thank you" payments would be on our next paycheck.  With the economy the way it has been, we weren't sure if we were going to get them this year, and it was a very nice surprise to know that yes, we are getting them, and because Cory and I both work there we get two of them.  This is normally where our Christmas comes from, and that means that now that we know we are getting them and how much they will be, I get to start Christmas shopping. 

About an hour later, Cory came over to my desk all excited, and told me that he had just heard back from our lawyer's office, and we had a signed judgement as of 11/13.  It was being mailed to the lawyer, and then he would send us a copy, but neither of us wanted to wait so about ten thirty Cory headed out for the courthouse about 15 minutes from our work to get a copy.  I was on pins and needles the whole time he was gone, praying that it was good news.  He called me about half an hour later, and was laughing.  All he said was that it was "perfect" and "we got everything we wanted".  He said he had just skimmed it, and he'd bring it in with him so we could read it on break in more detail. 

Almost immediately after getting off the phone with him, I got an instant message from the manager over the department for a job that I had applied for a couple of weeks ago.  I hadn't heard anything back, and in my mind I am pretty under qualified for the job, so I had convinced myself that I just wasn't what they were looking for and had tried to put it out of my mind.  I was trying so hard not to think about it, because the job is an amazing opportunity with a pretty significant pay raise and lots of room for advancement.  She asked me if I was still interested in the job, and of course I said yes.  She asked if I would be available to meet with her and a few other members of the team next Tuesday morning for about an hour.  I am so grateful that she contacted me over instant message, because by this point I was crying pretty hard.  I don't think I had allowed myself to hope, and between the court judgement and the interview I was a wreck.  We set up the appointment for the interview, and I immediately posted about it on Facebook, and then had to go in to my boss' office to deal with an issue.  While I was in there, Cory got back.

As soon as I was done with my boss, I went straight to Cory's desk.  I asked him if he had seen my Facebook post, and he said "yes, I'm just writing one of my own."  I knew he hadn't seen the most recent one, or he would have had more of a reaction than that.  I brought it up for him, he read it, and immediately started crying, which started me crying again.  He gave me the biggest hug (which shocked me, because we DON'T act married at work) and told me he was so proud of me and a bunch of other stuff.  I figured standing in the middle of the work floor hugging and crying was not the best thing for either of us, so we went on a break to read the papers.  Cory was right, they are perfect.

Basically the only thing the judge didn't side with us on was our petition for custody of the kids, which we knew was a long shot and probably wouldn't happen.  He agreed to the reduced child support.  Exactly how much, we are still waiting for clarification on.  In one section, he says that he agrees the child support should be reduced to the amount we were petitioning for as our max, which is about 450 less then what we are paying right now, but then in the ending section he states that Lovely Ex's income be imputed to minimum wage which would actually make the child support another 150 less than that.  He agreed that because she had been refusing parent time that she should have been paying for, she was responsible to make up those missed visits at a time of Cory's choosing and on her dime, as long as he gives her adequate notification of the times of the visits.  Finally, he stated that all expenses on her van other than the loan are her responsibility, and she can't expect us to pay or hold us liable for insurance, registration, or any of the other stuff she's trying to get Cory to pay for.  The best part?  All the judgements in the papers are retroactive back to the date of filing the petition to modify, which was December of last year.  She owes us at minimum about 5,000 dollars. 

Cory has been waiting for the judgment so he could request to have his kids for Christmas.  We knew that if it was up to us to pay, there was no way we were going to be able to have them this year.  Now that we know she has to pay for it, he requested them today and she will be pretty dang stupid if she refuses now that we have the judgment.  I'm not putting it past her, but at least now there is a chance we'll be able to have the kids.  We are making plans and requesting time off, planning presents for all the kids, and enjoying our great day. 

We had a little mini celebration tonight, but I think with news like this we need to schedule something big to celebrate.  I am so grateful for blessings, prayers, friends, and family.   We felt all of you while we were waiting for this, and I don't think we would have made it through without you.  We love you all so much! 

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Perfect Vision

Guess who now has almost perfect vision?  Me!  But that's nothing new (niener, niener, neiner...)  Hopefully, we'll soon be able to add Cory to that list also.  He has been talking for a while about how he wanted to get Lasik.  His doctor told him that it wouldn't be a good idea until his prescription stopped changing.  Well, we went in for a check up last month, and for the second year in a row his prescription hadn't changed.  He asked the doctor if he thought he'd be a good candidate, and the doctor said that not only would he most likely be a good candidate, his office was running a special in November where Cory could get Lasik for almost half price.  In order to do it, we had to come back in and get his eye mapped and measured to make sure he was really a good candidate, and then we had to arrange to come in on the one day he would be doing all of the surgeries,  We talked about it for a few days, couldn't think of a reason not to do it, so Cory called and made the appointment for the measuring. 

Cory has always had a "thing" about his eyes.  He has never been able to touch his eye, and the idea of other things touching his eye makes him really uncomfortable.  He was nervous about it, and honestly so was I after watching the video of what they were going to do to him.  But, we figured the good would outweigh the bad, and the doctor talked us through all of the things that could go wrong, but also told us there was a very small likelihood of any of those happening.  We planned so that I could be there the day of and the day after just in case, and hoped for the best. 

We got to the eye center about 12:30, and by 1:30 we were done and on our way home.  I was AMAZED at how fast it was.  They took us back in the room, gave Cory some Valium, and talked to us about the pre-op and post-op stuff.  They had me go back out to the waiting room while they did it, and seriously about 15 minutes later they had me come back in.  He was sitting there with his bright red eyes looking a little dazed.  They taped and shielded him up, escorted us out, and I brought him home where he proceeded to DRIVE ME NUTS!

Now, I love my husband very much, but there is only so much of "high on Valium Cory" that I can take.  He gets really goofy and talkative and would not hold still.  As long as I could keep him on the bed he was ok, but if he got up to walk around he would just walk around in circles and kind of.. bounce.  All over the place.  I think he actually gave me motion sickness a couple of times.  Luckily, the Valium was out of his system within about six hours, and that night I took him back to the doctor's office for a follow up visit.  Four hours after the surgery he was seeing perfectly with his right eye, and better with his left than I have ever seen him do previously, even with his glasses on.  His eyes look a little scary, but the doctor assured us that is completely normal and they should be good within a couple of weeks.  He has to go back in on Tuesday to have his eyes checked again, and we are hoping by that point he will have perfect vision in both eyes.  It's amazing the things we are able to do nowadays.